Regain the spark in your relationship this fall
The transition from summer to fall provides a great chance to be proactive in your relationship. Take steps to regain the spark in your relationship and make this fall one for the books.
How to connect with your partner this fall
Summer is ending, and life’s routines are knocking. Maybe you and your partner had some arguments over the summer, and you’re feeling disconnected as you’re preparing for fall. Or maybe you had a great summer together, and you’re worried about your relationship getting lost in the shuffle of work, school, and your busy everyday lives.
Either way, you might struggle to prioritize your relationship as you get back into the swing of things. But don’t worry - Coupleness is here to help you connect - or reconnect - and strengthen your relationship this fall. Keep reading for five practical activities you can do with your partner to help your love come alive.
5 ways to regain the spark in your relationship after the summer
1. Practice gratitude. There are many benefits of gratitude, including better sleep, more optimism, and being able to feel more helpful and forgiving. Those are all helpful things as we ease back into our routines. Try spending a few minutes 3-4 times per week writing about the things you’re thankful for. You can do this in your phone, a journal, or the app Coupleness, which has a space for sharing things you’re grateful for with your partner in the daily tracker.
2. Be curious together. Curiosity is one of the main things that can boost your relationship. No matter how long you’ve been together, there’s always more you can learn about each other. The way to avoid boring routines and taking each other for granted is to ask questions and explore together. Start each day by asking each other what goals you have for the day. End each day by asking what was meaningful or important about the day. Every weekend, you can each tell a story about your childhood that your partner hasn’t heard before. You can use Coupleness’ Question of the Day in the app as inspiration. There is so much to discover.
3. Keep the spirit of summer alive. Think about what you like about summer. Is it trying new things, relaxing, or being spontaneous? Try to integrate your favorite parts of summer into your daily life. Maybe you treat yourselves to a spa night after a stressful day at work. Or you don’t make any plans for the weekend so you have space to be spontaneous. Pitch a tent in your living room for a “weekend getaway.” Get creative and find new ways to have fun together.
4. Have a weekly relationship check-in. A great way to maintain a strong relationship is to have time set aside each week for gratitude, talking things through, and looking ahead. Sit down together or take a walk for 30 minutes once a week, perhaps every Sunday. Start by thanking each other for things you have done for each other during the past week. Then have open discussion time for any issues that have come up, things that have been on your minds, or plans you need to make (anything from who will make dinner, to when you’ll have some alone time). Work as a team to connect, repair and find solutions. Close by asking each other how you can support each other this week. This time dedicated to your relationship and each other can help you navigate the ups and downs of your lives - and relationship.
5. Start a new good habit. When trying to rekindle a spark, or be proactive in our relationships, a quick fix probably isn’t going to make a lasting impact. Instead, building new habits step by step can lead to big positive changes over time. Start with something small and easy to implement into your lives. Maybe it’s taking a 20-minute walk together every evening. Or saying “thank you” to each other for something once a day. Or committing to go on a date once a week, even if it’s as simple as one person cooking the other a nice meal. If you haven’t already, download the app Coupleness for a fun and easy way to build good habits in your relationship.