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Getting back on track after summer

As summer ends and we get back into our daily routines, we are all in a time of transition. Our relationships can be put on the backburner in this busy time. Read on to find out how to make the most of this transition time, and connect more deeply with your partner.

How do I get out of vacation mode and back into routines?


When we’ve had a fun or relaxing summer, the idea of going back to work and daily life can be unappealing. It is easy to be overwhelmed by life’s routines forcing their way back in. If you’re dreading the days getting shorter and going back to work, it sounds like a shift in perspective could help.


Routines can help us be productive, stay on track with our goals, and provide a sense of stability especially during stressful times. And you can always keep things interesting by shaking up your routines once in a while.


It’s also easier to add new good habits to our existing routines, instead of starting from scratch. If you add a new habit to your life (like exercising more) to a habit you already do in your routine (like brushing your teeth), you associate your new habit with your existing habit (every time you brush your teeth, you do five squats after). That’s easier to implement than vaguely saying you’ll do the new habit sometime during the day.


The end of summer brings great potential. You are (hopefully) relaxed and well-rested. You might find new motivation to make that change in your life that you’ve been thinking about. Maybe you want to find a new job, or start a new workout routine. And you can start new habits with your partner that strengthen your relationship. Read more to find out how to ease into your routines, and support yourself and your relationship this fall.

5 tips for changing your mindset for a better fall

Here are five things you can do to have a positive mindset as fall begins:


1. Have a meaningful goodbye to summer. Look through the pictures you took with your partner. Tell your partner one thing you loved about the summer. Frame a photo or put a souvenir on display. Taking time to acknowledge your positive memories can give you closure and help you move forward into fall.


2. Make conscious choices about what you want your life to look like. You don’t have to go back to the way life was before summer. Maybe you want to learn something new. Perhaps there’s a friend you want to see more (or less) often. You might want to bring more romance into your relationship. Take time to reflect and be intentional about how you live your life.


3. Take your time. You don’t have to start everything full-force the second the leaves start to change. Set reasonable expectations for what you want to accomplish in the first few weeks of fall. Go easy on yourself and your partner as you both adjust.


4. Look on the bright side. Make a list of all the things you love about fall. Celebrate the comfort that comes with routine. If you get antsy about routines, make some plans for the coming weeks that you can look forward to - as a couple, but also for yourself.


5. Make room for the shadow side. It’s okay to not feel bright all the time. Be kind to yourself during this transition. Take time to cry or stay in bed or ask for help. Let yourself feel your feelings, so you can move through them.

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